Hope For The Hurting Mom: Nothing Will Be Impossible With God
You probably have heard the phrase: “Small kids, small problems–big kids, big problems.”
It can be hard to raise adult kids! There can be a variety of reasons for you to have a broken heart: Addictions, relational and or health issues, or even the loss of a child. As a parent you want to raise them right, teach them to be independent, and draw close to God. It seems that each parent at some point in life is a hurting one. It is amazing how life can feel so out of control with our offspring. It is like your heart is pierced over and over again. Trying to make sense out of it all is beyond understanding.
I would like to share three steps that can greatly help you in the pain that you are experiencing—these have greatly helped me.
One mother who taught me these three steps went through more than you and I could even imagine. She had no special wedding day, her husband wanted to break their engagement, she was falsely accused, and she delivered her baby in a stable. The authorities tried to kill her little one. Her husband and she fled to another country to protect her son for several years. Her child was missing for three days at the age of 12. Her son was rejected by her own town, falsely accused, betrayed, whipped and murdered. Her Greek name is Mary in the Hebrew her name is equivalent to Miriam.
Step one is that Mary surrendered her life to God, no matter the consequences. She said: “Yes God, not my way but yours. Let Your will be done.”
An angel came to see her and told her that she a virgin was going to deliver a baby and that it was going to be the son of God. The angel reassured her: God will be with you and do not be afraid.
Wow, what a way to enter motherhood! This is huge, and the complexity of it was huge as well. Pregnant out of wedlock meant she could be stoned to death, she would be despised the rest of her life and her wedding day would not be a dream come true. Her life changed forever. And yet there was no other way this could have happened. Nothing with God is impossible!
“Mary said to the angel, “How can this be, since I am virgin?” The angel answered and said to her, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and power of the Most High will overshadow you; and for that reason the Holy Child shall be called the Son of God. “And behold, even your relative Elizabeth has also conceived a son in her old age; and she who was called barren is now in her sixth month. “For nothing will be impossible with God.” And Mary said, behold the bond slave of the Lord; may it be done to me according to your word” and the angel departed from her.” Luke 1: 34-38
To surrender your life, your will, your child to God is the first way to deal with a hurting heart. Give it over to God. Mary trusted God more than her circumstances. She submitted, trusted and surrendered to His will. How would you have prayed? Would you have prayed: “God Your will be changed?” Mary responded: Your will be done!
The second step is to receive the gifts God gives you.
“And Mary said: “My soul exalts in the Lord, And my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. “For He has had regard for the humble state of His bond slave; For behold, from this time on all generations will count me blessed…. He has given help to Israel His servant, In remembrance off His mercy.” Luke 1:46-48, 54
When Mary said: “From now on all generations will call me blessed,” Was she being proud? No, she was acknowledging and receiving the precious gift the Lord was giving to her. She recognized the God moments in her life.
Pride is declining to accept God’s gifts or saying you get all the credit instead of God. Meekness is accepting God’s plan for your life, living accordingly, and praising Him while you live for Him.
Do not ignore those God moments, see them as important.
Step three is to store the God moments into your heart. During the hard times reflect on what God has done in your life and know that He can do this again.
Mary traveled with Joseph for a census to Bethlehem. She delivered the Son of God without decent accommodations. She may not have had luxury accommodations, but that doesn’t mean God was not there. Angels sang in the field and gave praise to God. God brought the shepherds…not the wealthy. It was so important to the baby, the Son of God–what a God moment!
And all who heard it wondered at the things which were told them by the shepherds. But Mary treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart. Luke 2:18-19
And he went down with them and came to Nazareth, and He continued in subjection to them; and His mother treasured all these things in her heart. Luke 2:51
The anxiety and fear to raise and protect your child can be overwhelming.
So often our kids will do one thing when we expect another. It puzzles us–it becomes a struggle to understand. Mary struggled with this and yet she used it for good because she stored it in her heart. When it is of God–even if small or big–store it in your heart.
The secret is to surrender to God, receive God’s gifts, and then store each moment that God gives you in your heart. Mary did this over and over again even if her life was not easy. It set the foundation for her to work through what would be ahead.
It must have been terrible and horrific to see what they did to her son, the Son of God.
But standing by the cross of Jesus were His mother, and His mother’ sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus then saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing near, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” From that hour the disciple took her into his own household. John 19:25-27
Jesus provided for his mother Mary and her needs even while dying on the cross. God knows your needs too. Yet at the end after Jesus had risen from the dead and ascended to heaven, Mary as a mother had her heart’s desire set on her children accepting Christ—and receiving the Gift of God–eternal life.
These all with one mind were continually devoting themselves to prayer, along with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with His brothers. Acts 1: 14
Mary did three things as she raised Jesus: she surrendered her will to God’s, received the gifts the blessings of God’s provision, and stored the God moments in her heart.
God is asking you today to do the same no matter how much your heart hurts.
- Surrender to Him
- Receive and recognize the gifts the provision He gives for all your needs including your hurting heart.
- Store in your heart every God moment and pray that you will see what they are when they come to you. Know that God loves your child more than you do.